The most recent data I saw has women making 72¢ on the dollar to men, which is really disgusting in my book. This is a huge problem, not just financially but it’s a symptom of a bigger problem of women not being treated equally in all areas of life.
Not to blame the victim here, but there are certainly a few things women would be wise to do differently in order for us to improve this situation. Let’s look at a few I see all the time.
-Stop saying sorry so much: or its sister phrase “Excuse me.” Women apologize way too much and for very ordinary daily life things like taking too long to find your credit card at the checkout. You have a right to take up space, time, and resources. Don’t apologize for that.
–Ask for a raise: I don’t even know you, but I bet you haven’t asked for a raise in a long time and really deserve one. Your male counterparts routinely ask for raises. Even if you don’t think you deserve a raise, ask anyway. Get in the habit of asking for more from life and I promise, you will receive more.
–Stop calling adult women “girls”: This reflects badly on all of us, and it’s not cute anymore to call a grandma a “girl.” If we want to be seen as equals, we need to address all adults properly and leave the phrase “girl” to someone under 15.
-Support other women: We can be very powerful when we work together but, as is often the case because we see other women as competition, we don’t, and “divide and conquer” is how you win a group competition. If a woman at a meeting is interrupted when she is making a point, stand up for her. “I don’t think Karen was finished, John. Karen, continue please.” If we all agreed to do this, behavior would change.
-Don’t call other women “fat”: This one goes for anyone but because it’s such a personal insult that is so degrading and it’s almost always directed at a woman, it really interferes with our progress in general. If we want our value to be seen as being more than our appearance, we need to stop making mean comments about other women’s bodies. Frankly, someone else’s weight is none of anyone’s business but their own.
Speak out against bad behavior: At almost every company there is one guy, or sadly more than one, that the women warn each other about because of offensive jokes, sexually inappropriate behavior, or other unwanted attention. Rather than whisper about it to each other in the ladies’ room, those complaints need to go to HR. It’s not about “not being able to take a joke” as I was accused of when I complained once. It’s about helping to shift the culture of companies, so the next generation of girls doesn’t have to deal with what we did.
-Entrepreneurship: My dad used to tell me “if you think you can do something better, start a business and prove it.” Start your own company, its not has hard as you think and yet way harder than you think but the rewards…So much satisfaction in being your own boss.
It’s also not about hating men. A very few men are creating these situations for all the women, and we can fix it if we work together. And trust me, most men are in favor of the women in their lives bringing a fair salary home and feeling comfortable in their work environment.
Love yourself and your fellow humans by contributing your part to the hard work of change.
Jill K Thomas CHT
Soul Connect Hypnotherapy
Author of the books “Tales from the Trance” & “Feed your Real Hunger”
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