Escaping hard things
In life just now there are lots of “hard things” Going on. We are having to dealing war, supply chain issues, communication problems with people in our lives oh and there’s this virus trying to kill us…that is still a thing. Plus, just ordinary life things all of it amplified by a world full of conflict.
So how are you dealing with it? Have you gained a few L-B’s or is that just me?
Things like food (the good girl’s drug), Sex (bet I got your attention with that word), Drugs and alcohol are all escapes that we use in times of crisis. But there are a couple of things I see a lot in session that are not so well-known escapes.
Odd Fears: Things like fear of driving, flying and agoraphobia often materialize or rather rematerialize in times of crisis. 9 times out of 10 when I ask clients who have these issues what’s going on in their lives, they tell me about problems going on at home that they just don’t want to deal with. On some levels focusing on that sometimes-debilitating fear ends up being an escape.
Odd OCD like issues: Things like nail biting, Fingernail cuticle picking and eyelash plucking AKA Trichotillomania (one of my specialties by the way) are all issues that either show up or get much worse in times of crisis.
Shopping: Retail therapy, nothing wrong with it if you can afford it and if it’s kept in check but when it becomes your escape and it starts to interrupt your financial health and long-term plans then it can become a serious issue. Financial issues and the conflict over money is the number one reason couples break up.
Hoarding: Though this is much rarer and there can be a genetic component to this issue, it often starts during times of stress and upset.
Ok Jill, I get it. So what do I do?
Great question and thank you for asking.
It may be time to reverse it by facing and acknowledging what’s bothering you. Start by asking yourself the following questions.
“Where in my life am I feeling powerless?”
“What in my life is not going the way I would like?”
“What am I not happy about?”
Then…Seek help if you need it.
Consider talking to an outsider about your challenges. You would be really surprised how helpful talking to a professional coach, counselor, or hypnotherapist (I know a good one) can really be in helping you shift your perspective and gain next steps.
Use your tools. Thinks like Yoga, Mindfulness, Journaling, or just walks in Nature can really help shift your mindset and perspective.
And stop watching the news!! Its all bad anyway so grab a good book instead and enjoy. I recommend Outlander, it’s amazing.
Know that you are loved, you matter and that its going to be ok even when it looks like it won’t.
Jill K Thomas-Hypnotherapist
Soul Connect Transformations LLC
Author of the books “Tales from the Trance” & “Feed your Real Hunger”
Appointments available Globally by Video Chat