“I let go of people, places and situations that do not serve me out of love and respect for myself” Daily affirmation
Guess what, family is complicated
I am very often reminded by clients how complicated family dynamic can be, especially if there is any kind of mental illness, personality disorder (my personal favorite is Histrionics personality disorder) or the mother, father and first cousin of problems..Drug addiction.
“Yes Jill I know about all that and my paster told me I just need to forgive them for all their bad behavior”
Well, I don’t want to argue with your paster however I don’t think forgiving is what you should start with.
If you are the person in your family that everyone comes to with their problems but are never able to get help when you need it, well…
There are some Truths you need to start by accepting:
-You can’t fix them, and you shouldn’t even try unless they ask. And if they do ask, sometimes they are actually seeking attention not help. Use your discernment to determine which it is. Especially if drugs are involved.
-For each family situation ask yourself if what is happening is really your problem and if it’s not if might be best to refer them to a professional like a lawyer or a counselor.
–You cannot fix a drug addict; they can only fix themselves. And for gods’ sakes don’t give them any money..none!!
–If your family has a history of Narcissism, then they may not even be capable of having anything resembling a healthy relationship with you. It’s best for you to seek love and acceptance elsewhere.
-In spite of whatever blame your family tries to throw your way, especially if you have had to say “no” to them, challenges getting along with your family are most likely not your fault.
-Guilt is not a natural human emotion it’s something family teaches you to feel as a way to try and control your behavior. As in “you didn’t do want I wanted you to do so you should feel bad..really bad”
If you are feeling bad after every interaction with family, you are very likely being manipulated by a master manipulator. Kind of impressive actually, considering you are so intelligent. You must be if you are reading this..Don’t feel bad I get played too.
I could go on and on about this, and I have actually in a whole chapter in my book “The High-Income healer” but for now I will give you the bottom line.
You need to learn to put yourself first in all situations and accept what is, what is not and what cant be healed.
And know most importantly that you are loved valued and very important to the world.
And lastly as my mentor Michele Meiche always say, “Go where you are celebrated not just tolerated.”
Thank you for doing the work on yourself.
Jill K Thomas CHT
Soul Connect Transformations
Hypnotherapy and Intuitive Readings
760-803-2841
www.jillkthomas.com
Author of the books “The High Income Healer” “Tales from the Trance” & “Feed your Real Hunger”
Appointments available Globally by Video Chat