I have worked with a lot of clients over the years and I have come to learn that there are some wants and needs that everyone seems to have.
Everyone wants to feel:
-Safe, Valued, Appreciated, Respected, Accepted, Understood, Heard, Trusted, Connected to others.
And for some (but not all) I will add a need for Attention.
What do all these emotions have in common?
Underneath them is the universal desire to feel Loved.
When people lash out at others it’s usually because they are NOT feeling loved. They may say it’s about not being treated with respect or appreciated or even about something you did or didn’t do, but when it comes down to it, they are not feeling loved.
And that feeling of not being loved usually comes from childhood wounding that we all seem to have experienced, which is why when someone not feeling loved lashes out, it can seem that they are acting and what they are doing is very childish.
When someone lashes out, keep in mind that they are just expressing that on some level they are not feeling loved. So, as you navigate dealing with family drama, issues at work, and other bits of lives nonsense try to approach things with compassion for the other persons involved. You never can know what’s really going on.
While it’s not your job to fix everyone else’s problems in life—trust me, you can’t—we can all do better at expressing kindness, compassion, and patience toward our fellow human beings even as they express the opposite toward us.
And as you go through your own feelings and emotions in life, let me give you a gentle reminder:
You are loved, you matter, and you are valued. You are important to the progress of the world and it’s a better place because you are here.
And in the words of the great Jim Jeffreys, “I think we can all do better.”
You are loved.
Jill K Thomas CHT
Soul Connect Hypnotherapy
Author of the books “Tales from the Trance” & “Feed your Real Hunger”
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